What gets measured gets paid attention to.
If you want to build your most wonderful life, decide where you are, where you want to be, and then close the gap. It starts with measuring. If you say you’re at a 6 and you want to be at a 9, then knowing that will bring up more questions like “Why are you at a 6?” More on that in a moment.
What does an extraordinary life look like for you?
If you’ve given yourself a “score” now it’s time to decide where you want it to be. But a number is vague. It’s a feeling you have. Often we know we want more but struggle putting it into words. What, exactly, do you want? If you can’t put it into words, try putting it into pictures. Try visualizing your amazing life. Who is with you? Where are you? What are you doing? What matters to you?
Break it down
Which area or areas are you most unhappy with? Is there one area that is dramatically different than your vision of an extraordinary life? This is where those other questions come in. Remember the “Why are you at a 6?” question? What area of your life is bringing you down?
In order to make your vision a reality you have to break it down into smaller goals. It helps to look at it in terms of areas of your life like finances, health & fitness, romantic relationships, friends & family relationships, and career/purpose/life mission. A simplified version is to think in terms of these three spheres of your life: self, work, and relationships.
If you want to make a change, then you need to get very specific with the result you want. If weight loss is your goal, don’t just say “I want to lose some weight.” How much weight do you want to lose? By when? Is this realistic? Do you have all the resources you need to accomplish this? If not, how can you get the resources you need? The more detailed you get in deciding what you want the more likely you are to achieve it.
You can’t build a life you love if you don’t know what it looks like. That would be like setting off to build the world’s tallest building with no blue print. So today, you have permission to day dream. It’s setting the foundation for building a life you love.